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Roles of Teachers
Academic Educators or Social Engineers ?
Stating
the obvious, different schools have different emphases and different teachers
have different capabilities. These
differences deliver varying standards that may surpass, equal, or fall short of
individual expectations. Therefore,
unless you, the parents, are in the rare position of having the time to
personally supervise all aspects of your children's education, you have to make
a decision. You have to decide
whether you are going to place implicit trust in the children's school and
teachers to provide the all-round education desired for your children or whether
you are going to endeavor to monitor their performance and contribute where
necessary yourself. While it may
appear that all your child-related problems may be solved by sending the child
himself, or herself, to a highly-reputed boarding school, even those who can
afford it should question whether a higher academic standard is to be achieved
at the cost of a loss of family life and values, the loss of broad
inter-personal skills, and even the loss of confidence to take on many of life's
future responsibilities. (Those
with more money may appear to have more choices but this may not necessarily be
a good thing. For example, if money
were not a consideration most responsible caring parents would prefer to tend
for the health and welfare of their six-month old baby themselves, than entrust
it to a non-medically trained previously unknown nanny or au pair.) Not
all teachers make good parents. While
this statement is not intended to upset the teaching fraternity or to denigrate
the important role of teachers in educating our children, it would be naïve to
believe that all teachers have ideal family lives and that all of their children
will become pillars of society. If
we can't discipline and control two or three of our own children, is it
sensible to expect teachers with twenty or more children in their classrooms to
perform miracles and have all their wards acting like angels?
As well as both parents putting the time in to develop the appropriate
system of rewards and sanctions to positively develop their children at home,
both parents have to seek to strike an effective balance between the
responsibilities they assume and those they expect their children's
teachers to assume. Basic reading,
writing and arithmetic skills are just as important today as they were thirty
years ago so it does not make sense to implicitly trust others to ensure that
these skills are learned sufficiently. No
matter how deprived, or rich, a family may be, with the sources of information
available today there is no excuse for parents not taking a personal interest in
the education of their children and assuring that they have the range of
learning material that they need. (Public
libraries can generally provide an almost limitless supply.) Developing
the inter-personal skills of children is difficult for teachers and parents
alike. Fostering constructive
interaction with other children is the most natural way to have this occur,
although some supervision by parents may be required to ensure that any
domineering child's attitude in the group is positive and consistent with your
own values. If the reasoning behind
your own approach is sound, there is no reason why this logic cannot be
explained to the children of others as well as your own. Most
parents recognize that participation in team sports encourages the interaction
of children as well as their broader development.
However, when children fall out with their friends they often tend to
want to spend less time with other children altogether and therefore must be
actively, and in some cases persistently, encouraged to continue to participate
in team sports. As team sports in
particular seem to absorb a lot of parents time, it is tempting to give-in to a
child's temporary disenchantment, but invariably this would be a mistake in
the long term unless your child is truly destined to be a loner in life. Coaches, like teachers, are not saints, so parents still have
to be prepared to convey their views if they feel less desirable aspects of
competitive team sports are being emphasized.
However, an hour spent with the poorest coach you can imagine is still
probably more productive than an hour spent in front of a non-educational
cartoon. While children must be
encouraged to form their own friendships, this does not preclude parents
suggesting that other children in the class, perhaps with different
personalities, different likes and dislikes, or a different background to your
own children, be encouraged to play together from time-to-time.
The greater the number and the more varied the personal friendships of
youth, the more likely the achievement of harmony in adulthood, irrespective of
where your children decide to settle in our ever-shrinking world.
In
spite of the contrary media-inspired impression, recent surveys indicate that
the number of murders committed by strangers has not significantly changed over
the last fifty years and that 96% of reported child sexual-abuse cases are
carried out by 'non-strangers'. However
whether the paranoia some parents have about letting their children out of their
sight is the result of genuine concern or a desire to enshrine their own
importance in the lives of their children, unreasonable shepherding can be
extremely detrimental to the long-term balanced development of children.
While caution should always be exercised in letting young children stray
out of public sight altogether, the sooner they are trained to take a little bit
of responsibility for their own welfare the better.
Some parents react to this thinking by using the first problem
encountered by a child on its own as evidence to support taking a backward step
and closeting the child altogether. It
is hardly surprising though that if children have not been encouraged to take
care of themselves in the home and not trained on the appropriate actions to
take if alone outside the home, that they will indeed make mistakes, and
probably bigger ones the longer such training is delayed.
Therefore, there is all the more reason to push these boundaries of fear
very gradually to one side by controlled exposure to the perceived dangers. Today,
many parents living in supposedly 'affluent neighborhoods' endeavor to
justify driving their children to a school less than half-a-mile away, while
many children in so-called 'deprived neighborhoods' think nothing of walking
this distance and more. This
perhaps introduces the thought that there may be a certain 'snob value' in
taking children in a car, but how many perfectly natural and enriching
observations, peer-to-peer meetings and experiences are being denied the
occupants of these metal delivery boxes, never mind the number of basic lessons
in life? It is indeed one of
life's constant ironies, that the more we try to protect others from personal
problems today, the more we invariably create bigger problems to be overcome
tomorrow. Is it surprising that the
transformation into adolescence of many of this 'protected species' results
in a range of undesirable activities form criminal misdemeanors to furtive use
of drugs at even the most reputable schools in the land?
Is it surprising that as the 'nannying' of our children has
increased, the divorce rate has increased and the percentage of long-term stable
heterosexual relationships has apparently significantly decreased?
Is it surprising that some of us find it difficult to relate to peoples
of other countries where arrogance and aloofness are interpreted as contempt? Some
thoughts, which may be helpful to parents seeking to complement the efforts of
their children's teachers, are : Suggestions On Assisting In The Education & Development Of Children
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